“The Art of Worship"

Hello, my fellow worshippers of life!

Let me take you into a deeper field of desire that has just opened up for me. It won’t surprise you to hear that another shadow in my ever-growing light has been illuminated, leaving me completely still.

Desires. Let’s dive in.

The shame—oh, the shame that clung to this woman—was so deep, I convinced myself that my desires (to be cherished, adored, and truly worshipped by a man) could never be fulfilled. I believed that the way I want to be treated, the way I want to be honored, was too much. Surely, no man would ever embrace it. And so, I thought my choices were either to remain alone or to settle for mediocrity. (Black-and-white thinking? Maybe 😁. Know thyself.) But mediocrity as my norm? Absolutely not!

Of course, we also have to look at the societal story—the one that has lingered for thousands of years—that men hold more value than women. But...

I am Lincy Patricia, and I am a devotee of worshipping life.

This devotion is embodied in my humanity. There is nothing more exhilarating than being worshipped for who I am. And I live this every day:

•The mirror is my beloved.

•My thoughts are my tools.

•My emotions are my playground.

The feeling of worship—of reverence, devotion, and awe—is one of the most fulfilling experiences in life. It fills me up completely.

I’ve already been familiar with this feeling for some time. I am worshipped by myself, by my inner circle of brilliant, expansive people, and even by strangers I meet on the street or in cafés. But I want more. More, more, more!

When it comes to romantic relationships, my brain has a story: that people stop worshipping. They stop seeing, stop being curious, stop living fully in the moment. My beautiful brain has no other experience to draw from. And when I leave a relationship, the relief I feel (even alongside the pain) is enormous. I can finally return to the field of worship, where I no longer have to shrink myself.

And yet, I wouldn’t be Lincy if I didn’t dive headfirst into this with all my fear and trembling.

What I Now Know

A non-negotiable for me is that anyone in my personal field must have the drive, passion, and devotion to face life deeply within themselves every single day. They must constantly step into growth, like an addict who cannot get enough. A devotee.

In my view, this is the greatest “addiction” there is. The possibilities you discover within this life’s work are endless, and they lift you higher than any drug ever could! For me, it’s not even a choice—it’s a necessity. I mean, please, human: gift yourself the pleasure of devotion.

When you worship yourself, you naturally worship others.

Not long ago, I believed this was “too much to ask”—especially within the romantic realm. But why does it feel so unattainable?

Even more importantly: why does my brain believe it is unattainable?

When I examine this idea of “unattainability,” I find a big blur. And that blur? It comes from a belief that I’m not even allowed to look at what I want.

How can something exist if I don’t allow myself to see it clearly?

What I’ve Discovered

The reason I can worship my friends but trap myself in romantic relationships lies in communication. With my friends, I was clear from the start: “This is Lincy, and this is what she wants. I want you to look at me with wonder because I am someone new in every moment. Life lets me surf its waves in every instant. I am a great wonder.

I want you to train yourself to be present with me at all times. The most beautiful people are addicted to growth, to experiencing expansion. Within that, they make the human experience as vibrant and fulfilling as possible.”

Some people hear this and remove themselves from my field. Others light up because they desire the same thing—and they dive right in. These are my people. Some come, and some go. This flow is constant.

But here’s the thing: I never communicated this so clearly in my romantic relationships.

That is the issue.

I wasn’t aware that I could say this from the start. I wasn’t aware because I was ashamed. And because I felt that shame, I (unconsciously) avoided looking at what I truly wanted. That avoidance trapped me in relationships where I could later say, “See? What I want doesn’t exist.”

But now, I’m stepping into the field of possibility—her who knows what is possible. Even though there is still fear, I am ready to do things differently.

How I Step into the Field Where It Already Exists

To get what you want, you must become the person who already has it.

My brain has years of proof that this is true. We quantum leap into the new version of ourselves without spending weeks, months, or years “healing” from what was.

This is the superpower we all have. And the answer to every “how” is simply this: do it.

Yesterday, I told a man who took me out to dinner: “I, Lincy, live in the world of worship, and I will not live any other way.”

He couldn’t respond to this. He didn’t even ask me what that looked like. But that’s not the point.

The point is this: I’ve set the boundaries. Life now knows what I want. I will keep saying no to everything that isn’t aligned so the “yes” can finally enter.

And yes, it’s scary to adopt new behaviors. But the fulfillment I feel, knowing that my “yes” is now on its way, makes it all worth it.

This naturally dissolves any lingering sense of unworthiness. That feeling was tied to the old identity—the one that didn’t know this possibility existed. The me who now speaks her truth, even with fear, has no unworthiness in this area anymore. This echo of old will linger out of my reality

Because screw it. This is my life. I want to live it exactly as I want—on my terms, not according to standards secretly embedded in my system.

How good is that?

I don’t yet know exactly what this new romantic—and sensual/sexual—field will look like. But when it enters my experience, you’ll be the first to know.

I have updated my ‘offerings.’ If you are interested of working with me in the role of ‘transformational coach.’ I would highly suggest clicking this link. A few people already stepped in and were in AWE about the massive shift we can create together!

The beautiful thing is that I borrow the business plan from the extraordinary book ‘THE PROSPEROUS COACH’ written by Steve Chandler And Rich Litvin, what was recommended to me by my brilliant coach Mami Onami. Who taught me that selling myself is merely being myself (I am extraordinary and so is my coaching field). So the first session of 2hr I offer will be for free! You can plan yourself in, and after answering some questions, I will show you the power of stepping in my field. This makes me crazy for some, but fucking excited for me!!